Living Past Birthdays
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Living Past Birthdays

In a few days, I’ll celebrate another birthday. This birthday will make me older than my mother (pictured) was when she died. She died when I was 21, and I remember one night (though it was probably actually many nights) failing to sleep and thinking about the future without my mom. In my dorm room, … Continue reading

The Halloween Chronicles
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The Halloween Chronicles

Nothing scary is happening. Not yet, anyway. Oh, scary things lurk nearby, certainly. Ebola has come to my state. War wages in far too many places to list. Terrorists plot somewhere. Something you don’t expect waits right around the corner. But I’m sitting on my patio, glimpsing fireflies and listening to the whir of the … Continue reading

The Obituary Lesson
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The Obituary Lesson

The other day I listened to an On the Media radio story about the decline of the beat reporter, and one beat they covered was the obituary beat. I struck by the realization that so many papers no longer cover obituaries, and while some papers might have an online version, families have to pay every … Continue reading

Advice Giving and Other Pains
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Advice Giving and Other Pains

I don’t like being asked for advice. I don’t want to be asked which job you should take or what you should do about a relationship. I have an opinion (I’m full of opinions!), but I don’t need more responsibility. What happens if you follow my advice and everything goes wrong? Blame is what happens. … Continue reading