Okay–Really Wanted: Fearless Writer

One day we shall all learn to follow our own advice. What do you think? My advice is to write without fear, write your passion, and write without caring what your family and friends think. Got that? Now, why can’t I do that?

My dad’s second wife had a daughter. This girl, barely a year older than me, was an angry girl. She shouted no, she snuck out, she smoked with boys in orange groves, she argued, she threw things, and she generally pissed off all the adults–all at the age of fourteen. Now, I didn’t exactly want her life, but I was jealous. She just told the adults what she thought and to hell with the consequences. That amazed me. That impressed me. I wish I had that fearlessness. So, where do I get it?

5 thoughts on “Okay–Really Wanted: Fearless Writer

  1. Oh, I think she WAS afraid. That was the basis of her acting out. She was afraid she was unlovable, unworthy, not valuable or cherished, not worth protection by adults, and so she rejected the world to protect herself. Her behavior didn’t arise from courage or confidence. It came from an alienated place in her.

    The fearlessness you seek comes from self-acceptance, and from deep-seated understanding that you are lovable, regardless of what others may think. The fearlessness you want arises from not giving your power away to others by being so concerned with what they think, or with how they might react.

    This is a process. You start “getting it” by taking risks, which you are doing. 🙂

  2. Well, wow…kathryn says it all. I agree with her.

    I will add that as far as writing without caring what your family thinks…I agree to a point. Though I have something I want to write about that may really hurt someone, if I wrote it and she ever read it. I’m not sure. However, it’s so hard to get published that I think I’ll go ahead and write it and not worry. ha!

    I will also add that I think it helps if we take things step by step….even pursuing/writing our passion. Write one thing. Then move on to the next. When you think of everything you want to do at once, it gets overwhelming.

  3. Well, Kathryn, I think you’re right about my step-sister, and considering her parents, her behavior was not at all surprising. But to me, at the time, she was amazing. No matter what crazy thing my parents did, I wouldn’t imagine talking back. I got sick. I had headaches and stomach aches and chest pains, but I didn’t talk back or break the rules. She did and never suffered a mysterious cramp or pain. Clearly both us had problems, and I’m glad I didn’t go her way, but still, I remember what it felt like to watch her scream, and I thought, gosh, I wish I could that.

    Shelli, maybe the wacky childhood helps, but nobody writes anything when they’ve self-destructed. But I think what really matters is a writer’s ability to understand, to see, to perceive. You don’t have to suffer if you can empathize with someone else’s.

  4. I’m not fearless, either. I have a role model who is completely fearless and I do draw some inspiration from her. She had plenty of problems, but I like that she is who she is, and to hell with the judgement of others.

    I know I hold back in my writing. Sometimes it’s okay because I like understatement, but I know I need to be more fearless.

    I also know that need to quit reading your blog late at night. You give me too much to think about.

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