“That’s not the name I wanted,” my mom told me. “We fought about it. Your father won.”
They were either going to name me after her and my father’s mother or after my dad and my mother’s mother. My dad wanted the former–Marta Irina. My mother the latter–Lara Margaret.
“If you’d been called Lara, it would be more like your own name instead having sharing someone else’s. You ought to have a name that belongs to you.”
But I can’t imagine being a Lara Margaret. Who would I be then?
My parents ended their disastrous marriage in 1972. I’ve never asked dad how he felt about choosing to call me by the mother’s name. He refuses to talk about her. He can tell the entire story of my birth and not mention her. And yet every time he speaks to me he must use her name.
Once my step-mother tried to change my name.
Choosing a character’s name is important. A way of life, a world is in your characters’ names. How do you decide on names?
What about your own name? Would you use a pen name? Have you ever changed your name? What does your name say about you? Would you be a different writer with a different name?